As coaches begin their new season, they will be communicating their expectations to their parents and players. Often times, coaches will substitute or supplement their expectations with Team Rules. “Don’t do this… and Don’t do that…” Then the coach will spell out the consequences for violating the team rule. BIG MISTAKE!
Coaches, here is some friendly advice from the experts at Kudda.
When you spell out specific consequences to violations of specific team rules, you’re boxing yourself into a corner. What if your star player is 2 minutes late for practice? According to your Rules, he will not play in the next game. However, it appears that the player was late because his car broke down or the bus broke down. No what do you do? You’ve boxed your self into a corner with your RULES.
Unfortunately many coaches only relationship with their players is that as a Rules-enforcer. They will only talk with that player after that player has violated a rule. The entire coach-player relationship is predicated on rules. Not healthy.
Rather than spelling out specific rules and specific consequences, why not make positive statements? Explain what they SHOULD do.
- “Players WILL make good decisions in the best interest of the team”
- “Players WILL be positive citizens within the school community”
And if you feel the need to add consequences, make it simple
- “Failure to do so will be handled on a case by case basis”
You’ll still be able to handle the players in a consistent manner, which is very important, yet not be predicated to act based on a RULE.
Two thoughts to take with you;
- Focus on developing a relationship based out of respect…not fear or enforcement of rules.
- Avoid creating a set of consequences for violating rules.
